How to get caught in the job trap
People become dependent on their job
without really knowing what they're letting themselves in for. A job
seems like a good thing at the beginning: money is coming in, friends
and relatives seem happy that you found employment, you can buy
things like a new car, house, expensive clothes, a bigger TV, and so
on. Once you've gone a little way down that road, though, it's
difficult to turn yourself around, and if you have heavy payments to
make, then it's almost impossible. You're set up for a life of job
That wouldn't be such a problem, except
that many people don't like their job; and to spend your life stuck
doing something that you don't like - or even hate – is a tragedy.
I know one guy in his thirties who says ' Yeah this job is a pain.
But the pension plan is good!' Listen: when you retire, nobody can
give the years back to you. Better live them now.
Understand where you are and where you
It's difficult to turn this situation
around – but it can be done. The way to escape is to bring yourself
to the point where your income from other activities - working for
yourself or earning passively - exceeds your cost of living. Then you
can declare independence from your job.
Most people who have regular jobs are a
long way on the wrong side of that equation. The problem tends to
feed back on itself and become worse over time. Here's an example: if
you don't enjoy your job, and it brings stress, tension and
unhappiness into your life, then you're likely to overspend in an
attempt to find happiness in material possessions, or just to
experience the 'high' of getting some new stuff. Throwing money
around can also be an attempt to justify spending so much of your
life at work. You might buy a luxury car, for example, thinking 'I
deserve it after all the work I do.' You'd just get deeper into the
situation that was making you unhappy in the first place. All that
expensive new stuff has to be paid for, and so you keep going to
work. You can't quit your job, because you have a lot of stuff to pay
for. And, you're probably too tired or stressed, or just lacking the
time, to think about switching to a more satisfying way of life.
Help yourself to get out of the job
You might have noticed, in the example
above, that spending all that money wasn't really necessary – it
was just an attempt to compensate for the unhappiness of having a
job. Life doesn't really have to be that expensive. When you reduce
your expenses you're also bringing yourself closer to paying for your
lifestyle by working for yourself – remember you just need to make
enough money to pay for your lifestyle, and if you're happy, then the
chances are your lifestyle won't need to be so costly.
So, you have two controls to help you
reach freedom. One is your ability to earn money working for
yourself, and the other is your ability to control the expense of
your lifestyle. Another important consideration is knowing that you
want to do it. As I've said elsewhere in these articles, working as
an employee has something like a brain-washing effect: after a while,
you may not suspect that anything is wrong.
Break through your own resistance
After many years as an employee, I had
to struggle to see the reality of my own situation; it felt like I
was breaking through a wall that had built up in my mind. This
process wasn't helped by the fact that I didn't have enough time to
fully think it through to a conclusion before I had to quit trying,
and go to work. After work I'd have to start all over again.
Eventually though, I was able to see clearly how I, and so many other
people, became job-dependent, and how easy it was to fall into the
trap. I could also visualise how good it
would be to change my situation. I wanted to be able to walk away
from any job I didn't like, and better still, I wanted to make a
living doing something I really believed in, and to be my own boss.
I really wanted to change!
More time or more money?
By the way, I was never looking for a
get-rich-quick scheme. Excess wealth was never part of my plan.
Instead, I considered that true wealth lies in the ability to control
my own time, rather than in simply accumulating money. As an
employee, I had enough money coming in, but almost no control over my
time. But here's the problem: each of us only has one life, and our
time is a finite resource. It's going to run out. I'd rather have
more time and freedom than more money.
Start small and build up. A year or
two from now, it could be the day that you're finally free of your
job, and can look forward to a life doing what you want to do,
instead of what your boss demands.
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